shame, shame, shame…
it all began a couple of days ago. i have met the most amazing woman because of my book. women from all over the country, telling me how much they love MGC, and how i have given them courage and hope, and the gift of laughter, and now they don’t feel alone in the world, and all that great good stuff that makes you feel like you’ve done something of unbelievable value.
and then there’s the other stuff that bubbles to the surface.
a couple of new friends asked what they can do to help get the book out in the world in a big gigantic HUGE way… and i have to admit (full on) that what came up for me was a profound uncomfortable feeling mostly the shame of “i can’t ask for help.” i’m not sure where this all originated. most certainly when i was a kid, a young girl, and no doubt some event or moment planted that seed in the forever cellular body. asking for anything is excruciating for me. excruciating. most women i know suffer from the same pain, the inability to ask for, to feel comfortable on the receiving end, to put out in the universe what it is you want… oh, god i could go on… but i decided in that moment of frozen, i would ask these new friends, these gorgeous amazing women for help.
one wrote to oprah telling her how much she loved this book, and it changed her life and even posted a wonderful THE BOOKS THAT CHANGED MY LIFE post on vibrant nation. thank you melody!!!!!!
julie and jesse put a list together of the most amazing folks to write to, and started a viral campaign telling folks how important this book is for women in midlife.
and kristine & molly offered to do everything and anything to help get the book out in the world in a huge way.
i took a baby step.
i did.
i said yes, please, help me. and i only felt a teeny bit of nausea, not the full on “oh my god i’m going to get sick” feeling that often accompanies my fear of asking for what i want.
so, with open arms and a massive amount of tums, i welcome any and all help, suggestions, and offers.
or as my wonderful delightful therapist said, look upward and say in a clear crisp voice:
I AM READY TO RECEIVE.
Category: Uncategorized 5 comments »
March 10th, 2010 at 12:50 pm
I’m enjoying your book so much Amy!
I will spread the word to my circle of friends, and have posted it twice on She Writes.
Happy Receiving!!!
March 11th, 2010 at 11:51 am
get sick throw up don’t get out of the car. (see that’s why my dad saved all the throw up bags from his plane trips because no matter what you don’t get out of the car until you get there…)
then when you get there eat a lot!
March 12th, 2010 at 12:23 am
What women can do to help Amy is to add their voice to Oprah’s site. Both Oprah Winfrey and Ellen DeGeneres invite suggestions for future programs. If we all bombard their sites with requests to see Amy and her book featured, someone is bound to listen.
On Oprah’s page, you click on the Oprah Show (top of main page), then scroll down a bit, look on the right hand side. You will see a purple-outlined box (white inside) that says Be On The Show, and under that, the heading Season 25 — Who do you want to see Oprah interview? That’s where you talk about Amy and MGC.
On the Ellen page, you click on “Be On the Show” at the top of the main page…you’ll then get a heading that says “Be Part of the Show” with all these categories. A person just scrolls to the bottom “Dear Ellen” — do you have a question, comment or suggestion for our show? Click here.
It takes 5 minutes of your time. If you see any value in Amy’s work at all, please take a moment to give back to a woman who gives so much.
May 6th, 2010 at 8:50 am
Ellen is also very lucky to have a sweet and beautiful girlfriend like Portia De Rossi ”
August 12th, 2010 at 11:28 pm
i would have to say that Ellen Degeneres is really great in having her show, it is an informative tv show ‘*: